Why My Life is A Fairy Tale and How Yours Can Be Too

Into the Woods....

People often remark "You're living in a fairy tale!" or "Your life is a fairy tale!" and plenty of people have told me they like to live vicariously through me. Well, of course my life is a fairy talke! You know why?  I tell myself that it is!  I am the heroine of my own fairy tale! Yup, even at the age of 26 I still play 'make believe'. It comes naturally to me, but I thought I would break them down into steps case any one else feels called to live a fairy tale life.

1) Know what you want. For example, I know that I'd rather be the witch in the cottage at the end of the pond (good witch, of course) than the princess in the castle. Every one's fairy tale is going to be different.  Also know why you want what you want. Think of chocolate cravings. I've been told that when women crave chocolate their body actually needs vitamins and minerals like calcium and magnesium. It's not the chocolate exactly but what the chocolate gives them.

2) Imagine it! This is so natural to me, and I guess not a lot of people do this past childhood, but I daydream all the time. Perhaps this is not so Zen of me, not living the moment, but I imagine myself in the future, doing what I want, down to details, especially the sounds and scents around me. Allow yourself to dream and imagine. Then write it out, make a collage, or draw it.

3) Be Open to Gifts the Universe Brings. When you're living a fairy tale life, you have to be open to what life brings your way. You won't get exactly what you imagined. However, in my experience, it is always BETTER.  Don't say no to things because they aren't exactly how you thought they should be. If you kow why would want what you want, this part is easier. So the universe doesn't have any chocolate for you at the moment, but perhaps is offering a bowl of rasin bran cereal and cold whole milk, which actually is more satisfying and has what you need!

4) Be open to hard work and suffering. Now, I absolutely love my life, but let me assure you there's a lot of rough patches, hard work and moments of dark despair. But what would a fairy tale be without a villains, trials or conflict? When I hit those bumps, when I find my self lonely, frustrated, depressed, on my feet for 9 hours without a break, scrubbing poo off other people's toilets, I just tell myself that this is part of my test, my trial. I play scullery maid! In every fairy tale, the heroine must face her deamons, no? At some point, we all must get lost in the woods.

5) Cultivate and Attitude of Gratitude. When the "good" parts come, like relaxing in the sun by a gorgeous blue lake,really notice it, appreciate it, live in the moment. Give thanks for everything in your life, even, especially the things you don't like. Those things you don't like help you learn about yourself, the world, and they inspire you to move on to other things when you get the chance. A good way to do this is to write down 5 things you are grateful for everyday just before you go to sleep. You can download a free pocket diary to get you started here.

6)) Know that you deserve it. Don't believe people -including yourself, who say you don't deserve to live a happy life.  Happiness is a skill which can be cultivated, however, I also believe it is our birthright. Life might be suffering, but our purpose is not to suffer. And don't worry that if you are happy, somebody else has to suffer. We all want different things, so more for you actually means more for everyone else.

7) Know that you are being guided. Have faith. Any sort of faith. Believe that angels, Bodhisattvas, guards, ancestors, fairy godmothers, whatever, are helping you along. You are not alone. They could be unseen swirls of energy, or perhaps flesh and blood people. This will give you the courage to go your own way, to take chances, to endure anything. Know that you cannot fail.

Now granted I am only 26 and hope I have a lot of life to live yet, so perhaps I ought to be writing this in a few decades, and we'll see it my life continues to unfold as a fairy tale. But I love my life now, and I thought would share a bit about how I approach life, hopefully it helps somebody else's dreams come true.

Why the Switzerland is So Damn Perfect and Why I'm Happy to be a California Girl

Okay, so maybe it's not Perfect. But it has the cleanest water, air, cities- you could even eat off the floor of the last bus I rode. The country has a history of neutrality, and therefore safety. It also offers financial safety with it's stable economy.
It's great, in a way. Paperwork abounds, but everything is done efficienty and without much delay. And of course bills come silently in the maid a few days later. But how does a whole country work like clockwork?
Up here in the mountain village, everyone is always watching everyone else, and then talking about it. People are always watching. I've had to cut down on my dancing and singing in the streets because "people are watching!". At first I was like "oh who cares? I'm free entertainment for them!" but eventually I realized that these are the people you want to hire me, or sell me groceries, or a flat, or knows some one who would have been able to hire me but then heard I was , well, wierd.
That is the whole mentality of the Swiss! Someobdy is always watching! And their system works, right? Why fix it?
To even apply for an appartment we had to go to the big Cantonal...I don't know what .Offical building. There we recieved a report card which, if we had been naughty girls, would have revealed any offense we ever comitted, be that a late payment or a parking ticket.
So I have come to the conclusion that the Swiss are so fastidious because they're AFRAID. Anything new or diffent is seen as a threat. Anybody out of line with the norms seems to challange the status quo. No one tries anything knew on the menue up here, because the same 7 dishes have always been offered.  Who needs anything even slightly different?
And that is why I am happy to be a Californian girl. I don't know about the rest of America (because honestly if it's not on the Pacific Coast, it's a foreign country to me) but I think Californians have confidence coming out their ears. Perhaps it's taken to the extreem, sometimes. But in general,  California is a place where creativity can thrive. It's a place where you can dream big, try hard, and yes, even make some mistakes! And you can succed! Yes you will indeed!  Look at Apple.
I know California has it's fair share of problems. I am always sad to see the earthly paradise being paved over for yet another computer business. Switzerland does take really good care of their natural resources, but has it's fair share of problems too,- they just hide them really well behind the towering Alps.
I thought everybody frolicked in the meadows barefoot, Heidi-style? Now I know why not every Swiss person is out with easel and paints, painting en plein air every weekend. There are some earth-loving hippies here, but they are not the majority.

Heidi - inspiration for the flower children?  

I am happy to be living here, but I am coming to realize what a gift it is to be born into a culture where anything is possible, where you are told you can achieve your dreams, where you can be who you are, even if that means you want to run around barefoot with dreadlocks, singing off key at the top of your lungs. Do thoese wackos in SF or Santa Cruz really hurt anybody? No! ( Far greater damage is done by big business in slick suits.)
 California has a history of different people living together, or right next to each other, in general peace and harmony (except for those two warfaring tribes in So Cal, but what can you expect in the desert?) Differences don't mean chaos. Change doesn't mean instability. I realize now that it's a choice to be confident, to be yourself. It takes courage. And while I am sure anyone can learn this at any age, I am soooo grateful to have been taught early, even if I am to this day working on it.