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Into the Woods.... |
People often remark "You're living in a fairy tale!" or "Your life is a fairy tale!" and plenty of people have told me they like to live vicariously through me. Well, of course my life is a fairy talke! You know why? I tell myself that it is! I am the heroine of my own fairy tale! Yup, even at the age of 26 I still play 'make believe'. It comes naturally to me, but I thought I would break them down into steps case any one else feels called to live a fairy tale life.
1) Know what you want. For example, I know that I'd rather be the witch in the cottage at the end of the pond (good witch, of course) than the princess in the castle. Every one's fairy tale is going to be different. Also know
why you want what you want. Think of chocolate cravings. I've been told that when women crave chocolate their body actually needs vitamins and minerals like calcium and magnesium. It's not the chocolate exactly but what the chocolate gives them.
2) Imagine it! This is so natural to me, and I guess not a lot of people do this past childhood, but I daydream all the time. Perhaps this is not so Zen of me, not living the moment, but I imagine myself in the future, doing what I want, down to details, especially the sounds and scents around me. Allow yourself to dream and imagine. Then write it out, make a collage, or draw it.
3) Be Open to Gifts the Universe Brings. When you're living a fairy tale life, you have to be open to what life brings your way. You won't get exactly what you imagined. However, in my experience, it is always BETTER. Don't say no to things because they aren't exactly how you thought they should be. If you kow why would want what you want, this part is easier. So the universe doesn't have any chocolate for you at the moment, but perhaps is offering a bowl of rasin bran cereal and cold whole milk, which actually is more satisfying and has what you need!
4) Be open to hard work and suffering. Now, I absolutely love my life, but let me assure you there's a lot of rough patches, hard work and moments of dark despair. But what would a fairy tale be without a villains, trials or conflict? When I hit those bumps, when I find my self lonely, frustrated, depressed, on my feet for 9 hours without a break, scrubbing poo off other people's toilets, I just tell myself that this is part of my test, my trial. I play scullery maid! In every fairy tale, the heroine must face her deamons, no? At some point, we all must get lost in the woods.
5) Cultivate and Attitude of Gratitude. When the "good" parts come, like relaxing in the sun by a gorgeous blue lake,really notice it, appreciate it, live in the moment. Give thanks for everything in your life, even, especially the things you don't like. Those things you don't like help you learn about yourself, the world, and they inspire you to move on to other things when you get the chance. A good way to do this is to write down 5 things you are grateful for everyday just before you go to sleep. You can download a free pocket diary to get you started
here.
6)) Know that you deserve it. Don't believe people -including yourself, who say you don't deserve to live a happy life. Happiness is a skill which can be cultivated, however, I also believe it is our birthright. Life might be suffering, but our purpose is not to suffer. And don't worry that if you are happy, somebody else has to suffer. We all want different things, so more for you actually means more for everyone else.
7) Know that you are being guided. Have faith. Any sort of faith. Believe that angels, Bodhisattvas, guards, ancestors, fairy godmothers, whatever, are helping you along. You are not alone. They could be unseen swirls of energy, or perhaps flesh and blood people. This will give you the courage to go your own way, to take chances, to endure anything. Know that you cannot fail.
Now granted I am only 26 and hope I have a lot of life to live yet, so perhaps I ought to be writing this in a few decades, and we'll see it my life continues to unfold as a fairy tale. But I love my life now, and I thought would share a bit about how I approach life, hopefully it helps somebody else's dreams come true.